Ways to Make Your Relationship Better: How to successfully live and cope with our partners can be found within our traditions. These are the underlying set of values or principles that make us who we are. Men and women are different.
Beyond the obvious physical, emotional and intellectual differences, we differ as well in our organization of thoughts and emotions.
Therefore, for partners in love to co-exist, there must be a union of the emotional, intellectual and physical. These three areas should synchronise. Your partner should be stimulating and enticing in all three areas and vice versa.
“Love one another but make not a bond of love; Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cups but drink from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Stand together yet not too near, for the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” – Kahlil Gibran
You cannot pour from an empty cup. You cannot possibly give the world what you do not have. You first have to fall in love with yourself and everything about you even the parts that you’re not comfortable with. This will be achieved by accepting that you are perfectly imperfect, by surrounding yourself with positive energy, and by understanding that your value doesn’t lie in how your body looks and that you are your own competition.
Be water, my friend. Do not allow your thoughts and emotions to be trapped in a particular rigid mindset. Learn to accommodate your partner’s needs and wants. You should be able to adapt, grow and change to strengthen the bond of your relationship.
Unity demands the willingness to listen, understand and accommodate the opinions ideas, and feelings of the other person without judgment but rather, with an open mind.
It is very important to understand that all of us come from different backgrounds, different cultural upbringings, different identities, ideas, and interests. This is important because it protects our sense of personality identity and guards us against being overwhelmed by our partner’s demands.
HONESTY & TRANSPARENCY:
Laying everything on the table and feeling confident enough, to be honest, and transparent about anything without any fear of judgment is very important. Relationships built on open and honest conversations are made of solid rock. It’s difficult to separate a couple that is transparent about everything
STRONG PERSONALITY POINTS:
Relationships are bound to experience turbulent times. This is inevitable. The hardships may include loss of employment, transfer of work to another country or region, financial strain, severe health issues, and extended family issues. In order to survive each partner must understand fully well the other partner’s strongest points. This could save the ship from sinking because each partner will take up a task in the relationship that is their strongest suit.
EMBRACE HEALING :
Hurt people, hurt people. Create a safe environment that embraces serenity and balance. Be more compassionate, more sensitive, more loving, more dependable, and kinder.
IT IS “WE” AND NOT “I”:
It’s we and not I. Embrace doing things together. For the relationship to thrive, the partnership must have a deep connection. As much as we embrace individualism, personalities must come together and connect.
CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM :
Hard conversations will be unavoidable. So will difficult and uncomfortable questions. It’s called tough love. It is meant to make the relationship stronger by not being afraid to help the other partner become a better person than they once were.
RE-INVENT YOURSELVES :
The relationship will need spicing up from time to time. Imagination and creativity will come in handy for both partners. It can range from firing up your sex lives to learning new recipes together.
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