Five Love Languages: In these fast times that we live in, you cannot possibly expect a champagne experience on a beer budget. You are, after all, who you attract. Although many times dating, relationships, and seeking love may feel like chasing the wind, the power is within you to have it all. The ideal partner, the perfect relationship, the perfect love.

You deserve a love that is passion hot with a touch of teasing coquetry. Where mystery entwines with truism and two souls press the perimeters of devotion and companionship and upon reaching those limits, leap the barriers to a promised forever. A thousand miles begin with a single step and seeing as the world has now evolved into a global village, the possibilities of forming new relationships through dating are endless but here we are, we have turned dating into one-night stands, flings, we have given up on creating much deeper connections.

Love has many languages and if you happen to meet someone who can speak your love language you will understand each other’s needs and wants. You fall into the abyss together and just as that nothing else matters. The person that gives you the highs of highs and the lows of lows & you still can’t get enough of them. It’s an addiction and it feels damn good!

When you are fortunate to end up in a relationship, you look for the things the other person offers that can feed this addiction. We talk about compatibility a lot. What the other person offers is like a buffet and you can think of the food items as the qualities being served by the other person. In a buffet, you will take some things and leave others. If you find yourself serving yourself more and more items, then you are extremely compatible and if you find yourself leaving more items untouched because you don’t like what is being served, then this should be an indicator you are not compatible.

It’s always difficult to know when a relationship starts. It might be the way they listen to you when you speak, how they hold your hands, how they intensely look into your eyes, or how they constantly pause to ask if you are okay. One day you are in a sexy red dress at a cocktail function and there he is. A tall glass of water and boy aren’t you ready to drink! Some start with a sloppy kiss at the end of an incredible date, in the taxi as he drops you home.

At the end of the day, dating, being in relationships, and finding love is a complex web yet such a beautiful thing to experience.

The following are the five languages of love that will help you get through it:

1. Be bold and make affirmations; if you see someone compatible, go for them without any fear of rejection or you might end up settling for less and regret it later and constantly remind them of their strengths.

2. Be open, honest, and brave; it is always imperative to be open and honest during dating before it evolves into a deeper connection and after everything has been laid on the table and you feel that you have settled for less, be brave enough to leave before it is too late.

3. Be kind; if you are dating someone you like or are already in a relationship with, but it doesn’t seem to be working out, be kind enough to leave soon so you can both find the love you both deserve. Remember life is short and we should make the most out of it when we still can.

4. Be creative and compromise; we all don’t meet a person we are fully compatible with so be creative on how you will fill in those gaps together. After all, it’s all teamwork.

5. Be forgiving; we all lose a step occasionally, say or do things that are not ideal, so do not take the misstep as a lack of love, instead view it as a cry for help.

It goes without saying that we live in a fast-paced society, going through each day with the burden of past relationship traumas, happy never afters, and broken pieces. We barely have the time, energy, or patience to connect with other people.

It takes a conscious and deliberate effort to put love first.

 – “My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep; the more I give to thee, the more I have, for both are infinite” (Shakespeare – Romeo and Juliet)

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